The Benefits do Not Outweigh the Risks

I suffer from DID/PTSD.


DID is often diagnosed right along with PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). Many people who suffer from DID/PTSD have been through absolute terror and horrific abuse. Some people who were survivors of the Holocaust are those who have suffered from these disorders.

People who were traumatized by 9/11 suffered from PTSD.

But I suppose, when the trauma is not directly related to you, then somehow it's easier to make fun of, so it seems...


There is nothing funny about my life, or what happened to me that caused these disorders.


I am concerned that this "comedy" about DID could cause further misrepresentation of this population of survivors. We have been through so much hell already, and now people are going to turn it into a comedy- trivializing our lives-our hell.

People have said, "if this offends you, you don't have to watch it." Whether I watch this or not, it still effects me, and everyone else within this population.


If it could be shown that the benefit of this show could far outweigh the risks to this already tortured population, (aside from being capitalized on), then perhaps I would be interested. My concern, is that any false portrayal of our population, could just cause further harm.


The risk is not worth it to me.


I do not find the end result of severe abuse and/or torture to be humorous. We deserve to be treated with more dignity and respect than this. We deserve accurate representation.

For a Holocaust survivor I once knew, also DID/PTSD, I will argue against this with everything I have.


For my friend with DID/PTSD, who can barely leave her home or function, and is in absolute pain and misery, I will argue against this. A ritual cult abuse survivor, she has endured unspeakable accounts of abuse, and to her strength and courage, I could never laugh, or make light of her situation. She struggles just to stay alive.


Many of us struggle just to get through a day, an hour, sometimes a minute.

Please show us the respect and kindness we deserve.

For what we have endured, and continue to endure as a result, please do not turn this into a joke.




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Oct 2, 2008 3:53AM EDT

While I've never even heard of this show I did happen to find your comment on it. And I agree with you - you do deserve respect and kindness.
I would simply like to point out that every show on tv is a "false portrayal" of one thing or another. This particular false portrayal is more harmful than others, but do not think you are alone in this. Everyone is hurt in some way by the lies of television.
If the show does continue, and even gets popular (though I doubt that), just remember that there are people who support you.

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Oct 22, 2008 4:09PM EDT

i agree that mocking issues such as this isn't funny especially for sufferers but first of all i think people should wait for the show before talking about how they handle this because we haven't seen how they have handled it yet.
Secondly amnesia is a very traumatic disorder for its sufferers...have you complained about the show samantha who? or any of the many other shows and movies that use amnesia as a comedic device?This isn't the first illness that has been used in a comedy show, many have and none of them are funny in real life. I wouldn't worry about people judging DID/PTSD on a sitcom because frankly there aren't many people out there that are stupid enough to base their opinion of a real life mental illness on a comedy tv show.

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Nov 4, 2008 1:36PM EST

Do not judge a book or a tv show by it's cover. Just because it's a comedy does not mean that it will poke fun at DID/PTSD. You just might find the show relatable and feel not so alone.
There are many shows that make light of disorders. We aren't laughing at the disorder it self mind you but at the Characters in the show.
In this day in age, things shouldn't be taken so seriously...seriously!

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Jan 4, 2009 11:54PM EST

There is certainly nothing "funny about your life", which is why this show is NOT about YOUR life. i mean that much i CAN say without having seen it. the bottom line is that things like mental illness, being a single parent, coming out of the closet, being made fun of, etc. are NOT usually funny things in real life. they can be very sad and emotionally damaging, but you can't pick and choose. i mean this is what comedy does and always has done. it makes fun of everyone and ppl who don't take it or themselves too seriously can be entertained by it, but the "P.C." line is a thin one and you've either got to stay away from everything or just run across it into everything. if people don't like something they can easily not watch it. i don't have any intention of getting into this show b/c it just doesn't appeal, but i'm not necessarily condemning it either. honestly it's nice to see something coming out with the potential to not make everyone w/ any mental affliction seem like their life is nothing but misery. if you want "realistic", watch a drama and have yourself a good cry about how "unfortunate" you are, and if you want to be the judge and jury of this show, at least WATCH IT first so you're not coming to the table empty-handed with no real basis for your claims.

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Jan 10, 2009 5:56PM EST

I saw the first episode of this and loved it. Now I can understand how one with this disorder may be wary of how they will be perceived after enough people see this, but I found very little offensive about the sitcom. It is a disorder that people are fascinated with, because it isn't the kind of thing that everyone knows someone who has DID. I think that while parts of it were funny, while much of the humor came from the characters presented (the family and Tara's), I think that charm of the show is that you could see the situation that the family is in happen to anyone, and can relate to their frustration. It just so happens that Tara has DID and it is triggered by the stress of the situations, much like any mother would be under stress in a similar position. It is not portrayed as easy or fun, there are people in Tara's life who don't deal with her because of how she is. But it is so interesting to see how Tara's family copes with her situation, because it is not only about Tara. At the heart of the show, Tara is just a mother. Her and her family are trying to be as normal as possible. In this day and age, it is hard to believe anything that you see on TV. So, hopefully while you can only hope the show will give an accurate portrayal, it will peak interest and people will seek reliable and true info on DID.
I do sympathize with your concern, because I'm bipolar and on TV bipolar people are always portrayed as lunatics. While that annoys me, I deal with it, because I know that not everyone understands and it is because people don't understand that they are interested in it. In my case, while everyone seems to know someone bipolar, few people seem to understand what it means and assume a lot about those who suffer from it.
Good luck, and I hope that something good comes out of this show for you. Not everything produced by Hollywood has to be bad or a gross misunderstanding of the facts. Sometimes life is more interesting than fiction, and in this case I think they can have a compelling show without offending those who are affected by DID.

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Jun 17, 2011 3:08AM EDT

I do not have PTSD well, at least not to too much of an extent yet, but I understand where you are coming from. I do not have DID either, but I appreciate how this show handles things. I'm not sure how realistic it is, but I think when you are able to make light of something; it lessens it's power on people. Her family deals with it fairly openly (besides her sister who questions it's validity as a real disease.) I think the sister is to show how people who are dismissive of a disease like DID are jerks and her family who support her openly and honestly are an example of how people with these kinds of things would prefer to be treated. I won't go into details, but I was actually thinking that I wish someone could make an honest, light, attention-grabbing show about something I've gone through. Because I think it's refreshing and helpful - not harmful. It makes something that seems weird and taboo to talk about more out-in-the-open, and I think a lot of people would do better in their healing if more people treated diseases like this as Tara's family does (minus her sister.)

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