The sex tips I gave Billie, by the real-life call girl who inspired her TV role

By Belle du Jour September 23, 2007


Billie looked as nervous as I felt. "What happens in a GFE?" she asked. Wow, I thought. She'd clearly been doing her research.


GFE is short for girlfriend experience. It's popular with men who don't like to feel they're paying someone for sex.


"Lots of staying in," I said. "DVDs and bottles of Shiraz."


"What would you wear?"


"Date-cute, not too casual but not formal. But always with matching underwear."


Looking embarrassed, Billie then said: "What do you do when you're coming to the end of the hour, and the client isn't, er, finished?"


"Try to make him feel relaxed, take his mind off the clock: a bath and massage."


If you had told me four years ago that Billie Piper would be playing me on television and asking me for sex tips, I would never have believed you. But then, so much of my life has been incredible since I became Britain's most famous prostitute.


In 2003, like thousands of other recent graduates, I ended up in London looking for a job. With only a small student debt and a bit of money saved up, I thought I was set for a few months, but my surplus was quickly drained by rent and a thousand trivial expenses.


My daily routine consisted of poring over the job pages and writing enthusiastic and sycophantic application letters, knowing I'd never be interviewed.


I watched my mean savings dwindle away as buying a Travelcard became the highlight of each week. And while I have a crippling lingerie habit, even cutting down the intake of lacy things was not going to help much.


Aware of my situation and that, in the past, I hadn't been averse to sex with strangers, my good friend N set me up with a couple he knew who were looking to pay someone to join them in bed.


The experience was an enjoyable one and taking money for sex didn't feel half as bad as I thought it would. I had stumbled upon the solution to my problems.


I located what sounded like a small, discreet agency over the internet. After email contact I arranged to meet the manager. We got on and I signed up.


About £300 for an hour's work hardly sounded like exploitation. Even better, I was to discover that I enjoyed sex work.


My clients were normal men. A lot of young guys with no time for a girlfriend, or older men on business trips. A few chaps were separated from their wives.


Sure it got kinky at times, but it was nothing I couldn't handle. A brief chat, a glass of bubbly, sex and a taxi home. Hardly a long day in the salt mines.


In fact, I found the job so fascinating that I wanted to tell everyone I met what I had been up to. Of course, I couldn't do that; most of my friends and family had no idea what I really did for a living. So, instead, I started keeping a diary online, using the pseudonym Belle de Jour.


But although I kept writing about my experiences, I had no idea who was reading it - if anyone. Then I won the Best British Weblog competition and things changed overnight.


I guess that the blog attracted attention because my image is so different from the stereotypes.


I'm university-educated and not from a deprived background. I've never used drugs. My parents stayed married and I'm close to them both. It's not exactly Pretty Woman - Richard Geres are thin on the ground - but it's not what people expect, either.


I'm fortunate: for women who are streetwalkers, or drug-addicted, it's a very different story. But my experience is not that uncommon.


You'd be surprised how many middle-class girls have dipped into this secret life.


My notoriety sparked a media frenzy to uncover my identity, which thankfully remains a secret, and I went on to publish two books.


Then, last year, I got a call from my agent telling me that ITV wanted to turn the experiences of Belle de Jour into a television series.


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Aug 11, 2008 10:04PM EDT

i love this show

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Aug 13, 2008 10:21PM EDT

That is soo cool that the show is based on a real woman. That makes it all the better.

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Sep 23, 2008 7:40AM EDT

Yah, check out the documentary I posted on the main page (it's not under the Links section with the other videos, it's built into the page itself, about 2/3 down). It's about the whole background of sex blogs in the UK and references Belle of course!

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Oct 2, 2008 8:14PM EDT

It's called "sex in the noughties: the sex blog girls."

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