Mattress Talk: Will and Terri?

I really felt sorry for Terri, I mean I really felt sorry for her. All this time she felt that lying to her husband was the best way to keep their relationship strong.

We have all seen this type of relationship. The fact that Terri pointed out that Will was a better husband when he felt sorry for himself, was bad enough. What relationship you know survived after a lie, blown out of proportion, was revealed?

We knew the moment would come for Will to stumble upon Terri's lie, I mean really how long could she have kept it up. There could have been times where he could turn around and surprise her with her belly rub. Even though she became extremely alert in bed, there would be that time for the coin to drop and the two faces revealed, but I really did not expect it. While Will went scouting for his pocket square, I knew the moment had arrived for him to connect the dots. I seriously thought he was going to hit her there!

Even though everything she went through to cover it up, was manipulative and conceited, I still felt remorse. The fact she believed that a lie could help their marriage was beyond saddening. I mean really, I understand her. I don't think Will should have suffered through the false believe of being a father, but I also didn't appreciate his love affair with Emma when he believed he was going to be a father.

Even when Terri was believed to be pregnant, he held on to his misguided feelings for Emma, so imagine if Terri broke the news then, to go and ask Emma what was to be his next move. I mean a marriage is supposed to mean something, and even Emma told Terri to back off when she thought Terri was getting in the way. The irony.

The moment he realized the pregnancy was fake was the biggest moment for me. He said he loved her, but I really couldn't believe him, especially since he couldn't stand spending time with her at school as well as home because 'they would have nothing to talk about at home'. Their marriage was really 'messed up' from the start.

Terri: "Do you remember that appointment, do you remember what was said? That at that moment, no matter what happened, we loved each other"

After hearing those words and finding out she wasn't pregnant, in Terri's crazy state, I could imagine why she would feel the need to lie. It didn't all start out as a lie.

Their relationship was torn, the typical pregnancy to keep the marriage going has been misused and often times fell through the cracks. Things are often more successful when a baby is actually involved. She probably already lost him, so what exactly did she have to hold on to.

I hold my opinion, I do feel sorry for her, no one would ever want to be in that situation, especially when a simple human error was made and having a sister that condones it doesn't really help. I could tell she did care about him, but after he turned his back to her, I really do not know if there's any coming back from that.

I commend Jessalyn Gilsig and Matthew Morrison for that rendering performance, well done.




Default avatar cat
Dec 3, 2009 9:51PM EST

The pivitol word for me in the whole scene was the word loved. He said he loved her, not that he loves her. There relationship was a dramatisation of what happens when love dies. When you stay with someone not because they are the right person but because they are all you have ever known or you are obligated through a marriage or a baby!
Loved your analysis! Very insightful! I did feel sorry for Terri because she was at least trying something, the wrong thing, but at least it was an effort

Default avatar cat
Dec 4, 2009 5:56AM EST

I definitely don't feel sorry for her. She is the definition of a crazy woman for Pete's sake! I think she could only care about herself, what she did, faking the pregnancy and all, you can't honestly call that love. It's my opinion though.

Dec 4, 2009 7:20AM EST

I do not feel sorry for her a bit. I understand she was trying to hold on to her marriage, but that's positively insane. I rooting for a divorce, although I don't think it's going to happen.
I like your analysis of it though. I almost want to feel bad for her, but every thing about me cannot stand her. Maybe it's because of my love of Emma.

Default avatar cat
Dec 6, 2009 5:17PM EST

Terri has given anyone real reason to despise her. She constantly uses every moment with her husband given, to talk him down a notch. She also lied to her husband for so many months and in a twisted way used and abused her marriage to her advantage. So I understand why she would be despised and torched. Still when you actually look at the character Terri covers, inside she probably even feels the very same way. She wears pride and perfection as a front, but inside she is self depreciated, tormented dipped in with hint of pathetic that she probably even recognizes herself. Her husband was probably the only one willing to stick by her and with her manipulative way of thinking, the only way she could have kept him in her life was to bring him down. Pathetic.
What could frighten a person like that more, was if their strategy of constant 'downer talk' reflected back and their husband became not only happy but began falling for someone else. In Terri's twisted mentality that would have meant the end of not only her marriage, but what ever self worth she got out of it.
This entire situation reminded me of the relationship between Frank and Denise in 'Army Wives' minus the crazy and obsessive compulsive. Denise and Frank had the presumed perfect army marriage, but the moment Denise began picking up habits outside of the normal trend to their marriage, he got scared and even acted irrational. Imagine a crazy Terri in that situation.
I'm sure if Terri did have the idea of a miscarriage she would have used it, especially if she didn't have a sibling rooting for her throughout the nine months, she could have pulled it off. Maybe Terri could have came clean. Yet the only time she saw him smile for real was when he thought he was becoming a father. In fact, maybe that's why she kept the lie going, even when she knew it was wrong. Terri is not alone though, she was right about Will's affair with Emma. All the times he spent teaching Emma dance lessons and engaging himself emotionally to fall for another woman and emit that jealousy towards a friend. Terri's crazy was out of hand, but it came from somewhere and she probably would have lost him anyway. Here we have an uproar of people rooting for Will and Emma, the other woman and Will... then there's the broken hearted Terri left standing at the door.
I think that was the first time we actually saw her cry and the only way she knew how to say she loved him. Will definitely needs to take some blame, however small the percentage.

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Default avatar cat
Dec 10, 2009 8:10AM EST

Yeah, I also find Terri a very unsympathetic character. The thought of what she would have done had she managed to fool Will and pass Quinn's baby off as their own? That's scary. She would have kept lying to him their entire lives together, as well as lying to the baby. I think what she did was bordering on psychopathic, I really find it hard to feel sorry for her.
Plus, in that appointment where they said they loved each other no matter what, Terri was already so far into the lie, passing off a sonogram of Quinn's baby as her own, forcing the doctor to play along and tell them they were going to have a girl so Terri could keep lying? I just felt like she was trying to keep Will in the marriage, even if her original plan of passing off Quinn's baby failed, or Quinn changed her mind and she had to come up with a new plan.
And yeah, Will shouldn't have really lead Emma on like that, but I wouldn't go so far as to say it was a love affair. He had no intention of leaving Terri ever, but I completely understood him looking for affection outside his marriage, I mean, Terri was pretty much intolerable even without the baby lie.

Default avatar cat
Dec 10, 2009 9:18AM EST

All the blame should not be rewarded to Terri. The very fact that Terri felt the need to parade her fake pregnancy and then suck Quinn into it, was bold enough, but the fact that Will only noticed it until then was another.
In my advice blog Lexabuti Classic Adviser, I dealt solely with the topic of Emma and Will. The mere fact that Will vested himself into Emma emotionally, suggested he carried about an emotional affair. He even admitted to 'a thing' between them, he allowed himself to feel jealousy towards Ken and 'physically' emit his feelings while teaching her to dance. These are all aspects of him gearing his emotions away from his wife and straight towards Emma.
This is nothing new, we have all seen it. There would be some people that need their space, but a friendship is completely different from an actual relationship between husband and wife. It seemed as though he spent more time at school with Emma and had more to talk to her about than he would his wife, and he didn't complain then. That only reflected the disconnection between Terri and Will and actually made me understand why she would prolong the fake pregnancy at all.
I understand that through Will's depressed state, their marriage did survive and Terri figured that out, and that emphasized her damaged character. If you looked closely at her lifestyle, you would realize how damaged her background was (reference to her sister as well) and the way she viewed the world.
I really don't blame Will for walking out, what she did was heart rendering, but if he was to really be honest with himself, he would realize Terri was right. Everything she said then was correct. That was the sad, twisted, manipulative life they shared together and he only realized when he grew up, how unhappy he really was, to smart up. Being mature comes with its price, and he should have either ended his marriage or cut off any emotional connection with Emma.

Default avatar cat
Dec 11, 2009 9:52AM EST

She gets no sympathy from me. She's been a selfish bitch from the start, and however emotionally distant Will might have become, what *Terri* did should be an offense punishable by friggin prison time. The betrayal (crushing, unbelievable betrayal) is personal, but the *fraud*...! I don't even know... Are there laws against this sort of thing? Seems as if there should be.

Default avatar cat
Dec 13, 2009 1:11AM EST

When it comes to being the 'World's worst wife', Terri practically takes the cake. Magnify her life times ten; she has no real friends, has a crazy streak, which apparently runs in the family and lead her to being without a husband, very much alone in psychotherapy. Which is probably why most would feel contempt and disdain towards her, bearing no pity for her and celebrating her shame.A tone of 'hate mail' and a load of low self worth circulates her very living.
Then again, who likes being hated and pitied? No one likes anyone feeling sorry for them. Between being felt sorry for and hated, the worst would be to have someone feel sorry for you, as if you were a pitiful sight. Walking a mile in Terri's shoes, anyone would have left her a long time ago, to be just as alone as she is now.

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